“Our culture tells us that the worst thing we can do is to feel bad about ourselves. “So when you're not sure what to say or do, you stop and ask what love requires of you.”Īccording to Stanley, most people don't learn from bad decisions because they're convinced their bad decisions were somebody else's fault. those are our marching orders that shape and define and create and inform our conscience in terms of what our behavior should be,” Stanley said. ”It's the love Jesus talked about when He said, ‘A new command I give you: Love one another, but don't stop there.
“When I talk about love in this context, it's not just cultural love,” he said. “In light of my past experience, what is the wise thing for me to do? In light of my current circumstances and state of mind, what is the wise thing for me to do? In light of my future hopes and dreams, what is the wise thing for me to do?”įinally, the pastor encouraged people to ask themselves, “What does love require of me?” A lack of wisdom is what brings us to the precipice of the decision we wish we could go back and unmake.”
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“Your greatest regret is generally preceded by a series of unwise decisions. “Not ‘what is the right thing to do?’” Stanley clarified. The fourth question believers should ask is: “What is the wise thing to do?” There’s new information, and there's new insight and there's clarity.” If we allow that tension to grow, eventually, it begins to make sense. “There's a tendency to brush by or to ignore that. “As we're getting closer to actually making the decision, on the inside that's bothering us and we can't put our finger on it,” he explained. Third, he advised asking, “Is there a tension that deserves my attention?” “When we think about decision-making, we have a tendency to think of each decision in isolation from the other decisions, but every single decision may become a permanent part of the story of your life, and eventually this segment of time, this decision is not going to be anything other than a story,” Stanley said. Second, it’s important to ask, “What story do I want to tell?” - in other words, think “ultimate rather than immediate.” And if we can't lead ourselves well, that always catches up with us in our public leadership as well.” until we're honest with ourselves, we can't lead ourselves well. ”We are all experts at lying to ourselves.
“You’ve got to be honest with yourself,” Stanley stressed. Stanley, who recently released his latest book Better Decisions, Fewer Regrets, identified the five questions he believes every Christian should add to their “decision-making filter,” adding: “If you'll ask these five questions and if you'll answer them honestly, I guarantee you, you will make better decisions, and consequently, you'll live with fewer regrets.”įirst, people should ask themselves, “Why am I doing this?” The better the questions, generally, the better decisions.” “There is a super important connection between the questions we ask and the decisions we make. The last thing we need to do is to facilitate our own demise,” he said. Megachurch pastor Andy Stanley has identified the five questions he believes every Christian should integrate into their decision-making process to find success in all areas of life.ĭuring an interview with Sean Morgan, vice president of Leadership Capital, Stanley, founder of the Atlanta-based North Point Ministries, explained that as a pastor, it “breaks” his heart “watching people make decisions that undermine their own success, their own marriage, their own finances, their own relationship with their kids.” Pastor Andy Stanley | YouTube/North Point
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